I'm in love. I've been with my boyfriend close to two years. I'm a single mom, divorced and thought I had met the love of my life so the speak. Now I'm not sure what to think.
There have been some red flags from the start. He did lie to me about his age, saying he was 10 years younger than he is, but that was amended is short order and we carried on, carrying on so to speak.
He had an abusive childhood that he told me about. He has comes to terms with that by working on himself over the years so to speak. As well, his abusive childhood caused him to have a drug addiction problem for some years, but that is behind him as well. So I thought I was getting into a good open honest relationship when some weird things starting happening.
All of a sudden his sister got involved in our relationship, after about a year. She yelled at him on the phone one day and said she was going to stop talking to him if he didn't get his girlfriend in line. It was craaaazy. I was driving him to school and she felt I was interrupting their time on the phone. That changed our relationship for a while.
The current situation: she broke up with her bf of 5 years, and feels the need to come to town quite a bit. 3 times in fact in the last 4 months. When she is here, my boyfriend acts different. About 2 days before she comes here he actually gets quite stressed out and starts to fight with me. Then he says he needs a couple of days by himself before she gets here.
Her first visit to town he picked a fight with me her first night in town and didn't talk to me for the whole 5 days she was in town. Next visit was normal because I got pissed off and said I wasn't putting up with that kind of treatment. The third visit, she just left town again, and it was the same thing as the first time. Lot's of distance and weird behaviour.
So now, I'm not comfortable with their relationship now at all. I don't trust it and I don't like where my thoughts are leading in regards to this. I've done a LOT of research on the internet about brother and sister relationships. Nothing about their relationship seems normal anymore. I'm wondering if I'm just jealous and out of line, or if they really do have something else going on between them.
What am I supposed to do? He's in love with me and I know that. And wants to get married and be together forever. But his relationship with his sister is getting to be the deal breaker for me....
I need help!!!
There have been some red flags from the start. He did lie to me about his age, saying he was 10 years younger than he is, but that was amended is short order and we carried on, carrying on so to speak.
He had an abusive childhood that he told me about. He has comes to terms with that by working on himself over the years so to speak. As well, his abusive childhood caused him to have a drug addiction problem for some years, but that is behind him as well. So I thought I was getting into a good open honest relationship when some weird things starting happening.
All of a sudden his sister got involved in our relationship, after about a year. She yelled at him on the phone one day and said she was going to stop talking to him if he didn't get his girlfriend in line. It was craaaazy. I was driving him to school and she felt I was interrupting their time on the phone. That changed our relationship for a while.
The current situation: she broke up with her bf of 5 years, and feels the need to come to town quite a bit. 3 times in fact in the last 4 months. When she is here, my boyfriend acts different. About 2 days before she comes here he actually gets quite stressed out and starts to fight with me. Then he says he needs a couple of days by himself before she gets here.
Her first visit to town he picked a fight with me her first night in town and didn't talk to me for the whole 5 days she was in town. Next visit was normal because I got pissed off and said I wasn't putting up with that kind of treatment. The third visit, she just left town again, and it was the same thing as the first time. Lot's of distance and weird behaviour.
So now, I'm not comfortable with their relationship now at all. I don't trust it and I don't like where my thoughts are leading in regards to this. I've done a LOT of research on the internet about brother and sister relationships. Nothing about their relationship seems normal anymore. I'm wondering if I'm just jealous and out of line, or if they really do have something else going on between them.
What am I supposed to do? He's in love with me and I know that. And wants to get married and be together forever. But his relationship with his sister is getting to be the deal breaker for me....
I need help!!!
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