So...I have been in a relationship with my current partner for over a year now. And I dont know if I am being too sensitive or what, so I would just like some opinions.
Basically the first couple of months were great. Loads of attention, compliments and affection. Even PDA - which he claims that he hates, but for some reason he was happy with it, and actually initiated it in the beginning of the relationship. But then suddenly, out of nowhere all of it stopped. I have of course brought it up with him, and he said he didn't realise and will try harder. But he hasn't. It seems like it's even gotten worse somehow.
Around him I feel unnattractive and unnoticed. He also makes me feel stupid sometimes. Again, I also mentioned it to him but he said he knows he can be an asshole at times, even his friends tell him off for it. He told me that he thinks I am very intelligent and that I can hold conversations about more than just whats on the tv. But still, there is still those little jibes which make me feel like crap.
Another thing which is also grinding my gears (might as well get it all out there, seeing as I am here), he still has tons of pictures of his ex on his facebook. Now, I don't use facebook religiously like some people do. But I do go on sometimes. He has one picture of us, and the rest are of him and his ex. He asked at the beginning of the relationship if it bothered me and I said no. At the time it was the start of a new relationship, and I thought he might of been still getting over her so it honestly didn't bother me. But the fact that they are still there - now THAT bothers me. He used to live in Canada (where his ex is from) and I understand there are memories from that, but he could at least delete the ones of just him and her? :( I haven't brought this up with him, cause I feel like I know what he will say - that he doesn't go on facebook much, or that he forgot that those were there. And I don't want to appear over sensitive or needy! I know it is just facebook, bu t somehow it feels like it means something...
I know that some people will say that he is a man, and that he finds it hard to show affection and such. But surely it would be harder to show affection to someone you just met? Instead of the other way around?
Oh and also, he complained about me being too shy around his family. Now, I know I have been shy. But I get social anxiety, and just clam up round people. Especially those who I want to impress. I have gotten a lot better, especially round his parents cause I see them most often. He claims he is confident round my family, but honestly he talks less than me! And he has been moody round my family as well. Which makes me feel uncomfortable, because obviously it gives off the wrong impression.
He gets moody quite a bit, and he used to apologise for it. But now he acts like I should just accept it as it's part of who he is. But I am fed up of worrying each time I see him, in case he is in one of his moods!
And lastly, I can't even remember the last time we had sex. We both live at home at the moment, and I understand that its hard with parents and family downstairs or whatever. But his family won't be at home this weekend, which gives us the perfect time. But no, he would rather go to his work christmas dinner - even though he doesn't like anyone he works with! Ugh.
I just wonder if this relationship is just going round in circles. :( :(
Basically the first couple of months were great. Loads of attention, compliments and affection. Even PDA - which he claims that he hates, but for some reason he was happy with it, and actually initiated it in the beginning of the relationship. But then suddenly, out of nowhere all of it stopped. I have of course brought it up with him, and he said he didn't realise and will try harder. But he hasn't. It seems like it's even gotten worse somehow.
Around him I feel unnattractive and unnoticed. He also makes me feel stupid sometimes. Again, I also mentioned it to him but he said he knows he can be an asshole at times, even his friends tell him off for it. He told me that he thinks I am very intelligent and that I can hold conversations about more than just whats on the tv. But still, there is still those little jibes which make me feel like crap.
Another thing which is also grinding my gears (might as well get it all out there, seeing as I am here), he still has tons of pictures of his ex on his facebook. Now, I don't use facebook religiously like some people do. But I do go on sometimes. He has one picture of us, and the rest are of him and his ex. He asked at the beginning of the relationship if it bothered me and I said no. At the time it was the start of a new relationship, and I thought he might of been still getting over her so it honestly didn't bother me. But the fact that they are still there - now THAT bothers me. He used to live in Canada (where his ex is from) and I understand there are memories from that, but he could at least delete the ones of just him and her? :( I haven't brought this up with him, cause I feel like I know what he will say - that he doesn't go on facebook much, or that he forgot that those were there. And I don't want to appear over sensitive or needy! I know it is just facebook, bu t somehow it feels like it means something...
I know that some people will say that he is a man, and that he finds it hard to show affection and such. But surely it would be harder to show affection to someone you just met? Instead of the other way around?
Oh and also, he complained about me being too shy around his family. Now, I know I have been shy. But I get social anxiety, and just clam up round people. Especially those who I want to impress. I have gotten a lot better, especially round his parents cause I see them most often. He claims he is confident round my family, but honestly he talks less than me! And he has been moody round my family as well. Which makes me feel uncomfortable, because obviously it gives off the wrong impression.
He gets moody quite a bit, and he used to apologise for it. But now he acts like I should just accept it as it's part of who he is. But I am fed up of worrying each time I see him, in case he is in one of his moods!
And lastly, I can't even remember the last time we had sex. We both live at home at the moment, and I understand that its hard with parents and family downstairs or whatever. But his family won't be at home this weekend, which gives us the perfect time. But no, he would rather go to his work christmas dinner - even though he doesn't like anyone he works with! Ugh.
I just wonder if this relationship is just going round in circles. :( :(
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