My husband of 9 years wants a divorce and its tearing me apart…but I caused it all and I feel worthless. Here is my story….i have known my husband for 12 years and we've been married for 9 years and blessed with 3 wonderful kids aged 9,5 and 3. We met when he was 21 and I was barely 18, we connected right from the first day. We were so much in love. He was very supportive and caring and I just wanted to be with him everytime.
In 2003, after about two years of dating I made a terrible by having sex with a guy I had met for just about two weeks who seemed like a nice guy and promised me the world. I was young and naïve(20years old by then), and ended up with a pregnancy and hepatitis B. I told my bf I was pregnant for him and we decided to get married. We got married the following year in 2004. He discovered six months into our marriage about the affair and was so shattered. We went to counselling and agreed to remain married despite the affair and the child(who is legally his child).
I wouldn't say our marriage was perfect, but we didn't have major issues. He worked and I was the stay at home mom, taking care of our little girl. Sometime in 2007, I reconnected with an old ex and things got steamy. My husband found out from my phone records and text messages and decided that he wanted to end the marriage and took me to my parents. My parents pleaded and swore it would not happen again, and our marriage was restored. But no counselling or anything concrete, just occasional pieces of advice from my mother.
We were getting along just fine, no major issues, but nothing really exciting in our marriage, the sex was not bad and the finances could be better. We had two more kids by the year 2012. Around January 2012 I reconnected with an old ex (one I never told my husband about), and we hit it off instantly. He was also married with kids living in another country, so after a couple of meetings when he had to go back, we stayed connected via phone and text messages. We had it going for about a year, and then I met another guy on WhatsApp, who I began emotional affair with around February 2013. My attitudes had changed and my husband found out about the emotional affair with this new guy, during his investigations he discovered the affair with my ex also. He wouldn't talk to me for days, I couldn't go to my mom so I asked my auntie and her pastor to come and plead on my behalf, after several days my husband agreed to forgive me and keep me as his wife. I felt so evil and didn't know what to do with my life, I re dedicated my life to God and went for Bible classes to build my faith. My husband and I began to work on our marriage and we went through several materials and sessions to build us up.
My mother-in-law passed away in July and I believe this brought my husband and I very close to each other. Fast forward to September and one guy I used to exchange **** with on WhatsApp, reconnected with me and I forgot all about all the work I had put in to restore my marriage. We continued from where we left off and things got more serious, we will meet every now and then and do our own thing…he was the husband of my friend. Around the same time I found another guy on whatsapp, who expressed interest in me, I was a little hesitant but after a couple of weeks I gave in and things got steamy. We began exchanging nude pics and things were moving very fast. We met over lunch and I must say we really connected. My husband sniffed the affair and confronted me about it, naturally I denied it and carried on with it..i even denied it to my auntie when my husband told her about it.
After a couple of weeks, things got very far with this guy and we exchanged a lot more nudes and also met couple of times to consummate the affair, I would go and meet him in a hotel when my husband went to work and the kids went to school. Luck run out when my husband found the pics on my phone, and I couldn't deny it anymore and I had to also confess to the sexual encounters. Its been almost a month now and he doesn't want anything to do with me….i think I deserve all this…
In 2003, after about two years of dating I made a terrible by having sex with a guy I had met for just about two weeks who seemed like a nice guy and promised me the world. I was young and naïve(20years old by then), and ended up with a pregnancy and hepatitis B. I told my bf I was pregnant for him and we decided to get married. We got married the following year in 2004. He discovered six months into our marriage about the affair and was so shattered. We went to counselling and agreed to remain married despite the affair and the child(who is legally his child).
I wouldn't say our marriage was perfect, but we didn't have major issues. He worked and I was the stay at home mom, taking care of our little girl. Sometime in 2007, I reconnected with an old ex and things got steamy. My husband found out from my phone records and text messages and decided that he wanted to end the marriage and took me to my parents. My parents pleaded and swore it would not happen again, and our marriage was restored. But no counselling or anything concrete, just occasional pieces of advice from my mother.
We were getting along just fine, no major issues, but nothing really exciting in our marriage, the sex was not bad and the finances could be better. We had two more kids by the year 2012. Around January 2012 I reconnected with an old ex (one I never told my husband about), and we hit it off instantly. He was also married with kids living in another country, so after a couple of meetings when he had to go back, we stayed connected via phone and text messages. We had it going for about a year, and then I met another guy on WhatsApp, who I began emotional affair with around February 2013. My attitudes had changed and my husband found out about the emotional affair with this new guy, during his investigations he discovered the affair with my ex also. He wouldn't talk to me for days, I couldn't go to my mom so I asked my auntie and her pastor to come and plead on my behalf, after several days my husband agreed to forgive me and keep me as his wife. I felt so evil and didn't know what to do with my life, I re dedicated my life to God and went for Bible classes to build my faith. My husband and I began to work on our marriage and we went through several materials and sessions to build us up.
My mother-in-law passed away in July and I believe this brought my husband and I very close to each other. Fast forward to September and one guy I used to exchange **** with on WhatsApp, reconnected with me and I forgot all about all the work I had put in to restore my marriage. We continued from where we left off and things got more serious, we will meet every now and then and do our own thing…he was the husband of my friend. Around the same time I found another guy on whatsapp, who expressed interest in me, I was a little hesitant but after a couple of weeks I gave in and things got steamy. We began exchanging nude pics and things were moving very fast. We met over lunch and I must say we really connected. My husband sniffed the affair and confronted me about it, naturally I denied it and carried on with it..i even denied it to my auntie when my husband told her about it.
After a couple of weeks, things got very far with this guy and we exchanged a lot more nudes and also met couple of times to consummate the affair, I would go and meet him in a hotel when my husband went to work and the kids went to school. Luck run out when my husband found the pics on my phone, and I couldn't deny it anymore and I had to also confess to the sexual encounters. Its been almost a month now and he doesn't want anything to do with me….i think I deserve all this…
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