Came here for some advice with a girl, I'm rarely get involved with girls, I'm a bit of a loner, but this one was different. So I decided to go for it. She transferred from another city to my work, she seemed great and we had a lot in common so after a few weeks I decided to ask her out. I didn't really know what to propose, since I hadn't done this before. I ended up asking if she wanted to go to the cinema, she said there was nothing she wanted to see, but instead suggested we go for coffee. So we met up and we had a great time, we were there for about 2 hours, that's usually way more than my regular dosage of human interaction for the day, but with her I didn't mind. So we later parted ways, she headed home and I did the same. I waited a few days to speak to her again, since I'd see her at work the coming weekend. When I saw her we discussed an upcoming house-warming party one of the guys at work was having. I said I'd get a taxi with her since we didn 't live far apart. So we went together and while we were there one of the girls at work asked her if she had a boyfriend. She said yes, this revelation was then brought to me. Which left me pretty damn confused. I didn't really speak to her until the end of the night because I was so confused. But we both ended up outside with a few more guys and I could feel her eyes occasionally on me. I felt like I still had a chance.
It started getting late so I asked if she wanted to get a taxi, long story short it never showed and we walked home with another lad who didn't live far away. After we left him I walked her home. She said I couldn't come in because her room was a mess (student halls), I was okay with this since I already knew the deal and just wanted to be around her. But when we arrived she asked if I wanted to stay over (we were both working the coming morning). Of course I wanted to, even though I knew it probably wouldn't get me anywhere. Now this is where things progressed. We stayed up all night, talking about stuff in general. I told her some pretty personal shit and basically told her I was into her, and if I'd ever have a chance. She sort of avoided the question but I felt she wanted to say yes. Nothing happened that night, but I think it was close, I was inches away from her face at times all I wanted to do was kiss her. But she kept mentioning how her boyfriend would be pissed if h e ever knew about this and it got me feeling guilty. So the next day I text her asking if she wanted to hang out again, she made it clear it wouldn't be "going out", but she still said yes, "if I thought it was acceptable" ,would she have accepted if she wasn't into me? From the very beginning I've felt there's a connection, as if, if she didn't have a boyfriend, I'd be in. But now I'm left with mixed thoughts. Surely she didn't just want to be friends? When I asked she said she didn't mention her boyfriend because she thought I would get mad. So can anyone give me their thoughts or advice? I'm sorry for this long ass post, I tried to get all the details in but I feel I still may have missed bits. Please someone advise me, I have no idea what to do and its making me upset.
It started getting late so I asked if she wanted to get a taxi, long story short it never showed and we walked home with another lad who didn't live far away. After we left him I walked her home. She said I couldn't come in because her room was a mess (student halls), I was okay with this since I already knew the deal and just wanted to be around her. But when we arrived she asked if I wanted to stay over (we were both working the coming morning). Of course I wanted to, even though I knew it probably wouldn't get me anywhere. Now this is where things progressed. We stayed up all night, talking about stuff in general. I told her some pretty personal shit and basically told her I was into her, and if I'd ever have a chance. She sort of avoided the question but I felt she wanted to say yes. Nothing happened that night, but I think it was close, I was inches away from her face at times all I wanted to do was kiss her. But she kept mentioning how her boyfriend would be pissed if h e ever knew about this and it got me feeling guilty. So the next day I text her asking if she wanted to hang out again, she made it clear it wouldn't be "going out", but she still said yes, "if I thought it was acceptable" ,would she have accepted if she wasn't into me? From the very beginning I've felt there's a connection, as if, if she didn't have a boyfriend, I'd be in. But now I'm left with mixed thoughts. Surely she didn't just want to be friends? When I asked she said she didn't mention her boyfriend because she thought I would get mad. So can anyone give me their thoughts or advice? I'm sorry for this long ass post, I tried to get all the details in but I feel I still may have missed bits. Please someone advise me, I have no idea what to do and its making me upset.
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