Struggling

I have been married for 8 years, married young (22, 25), have 2 children, 1, 8years, 1, 16months. We have been through a lot. My husband was verbally abusive for the first 4 years of our marriage, and got some help, then he had an affair after 5.5 years with our daughters day care teacher who was a high school classmate of mine. We again went to marriage counseling, and things got a bit better. However he still seems less than engaged in our marriage. He wants to start a business, which I am in full support of, however I am the bread winner in our family, and have put up the majority of the money to finance this venture. Without me he would not be able to do it. To throw a monkey wrench in things, our youngest child has a medical condition which causes her to have recurrent bacterial infections, where she has been hospitalized, more than once. I am working my day job, while juggling my daughters, day to day care, doctors appointments, etc. .. I have to take her to work with me, sometimes, or stay home with her. Forcing me to be less than a desirable employee at times. I also work a night job 2-3 nights per week, usually a swing shift 7p-2a. Trying to save money, support his venture, and pay for our daughters medical care etc... He comes home everyday, ususally watches, TV saying he needs to relax because he works outdoors all day (which I can appreciate because it is hot outside), then he goes, and works on something in the garage, or talks on the phone, or goes to the boating store, or something... I end up being at home, with kids. Keep in mind I do the drop and pick up everyday with my older one at school, and usually work all day with my younger in tow, do her meds, and make phone calls to the doctors etc... I am growing very angry and irritated that my husband has no idea the immense amount of stress, and pressure I am under to take care of our daughters, work, pay bills, meet sales goals etc.. He nev er thanks me for working extra hours, never offers me a break from our kids, although I give him those breaks. I am exhausted, irritated, and angry. I have stuck by him through thin. I feel like he doesn't appreciate all the extra things I am doing so he can realize his dream. I feel so taken advantage of. I am thinking of calling it quits, I have done marriage counseling 3 separate times, I have been through abuse, and infidelity, and I am stressed to the max with our daughter and work, and on top of it all my father is terminally ill. I am doing best not to let it get to me . Any thoughts or insight would be helpful. I could use some advice on where to go to and what to do.

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