I'm worried...

So, DH and I(who recently joined this forum) have been going through a rough patch. We moved a few weeks ago from our apartment in the city to a house in the country...a decision that has definitely made a difference in him. He's considerably more relaxed when he's at home, which has made him far more attentive to our relationship than when we lived across the street from where he works. So, all things considered, we're very slowly improving. However, there have been a few fights in the last couple of weeks, and they've been pretty bad. The fights in and of themselves aren't necessarily a bad thing...at least we're still attempting to communicate with each other. My concern is over some of the things that are said in these fights. Most of them I can take; a fight is a fight, and I don't expect to derive any emotional satisfaction from them or anything...but in the last one, DH brought up how easily he's let his friendships go; that he didn't do it intentionally, but he made no effort to maintain them and, as a result, he has no real friends left. And it's true. I've asked him to hang out with his friends time and time again since we got married, and he's rarely done so. Now, it's not like I expect him to spend the night and things that he did when single, but hanging out with a buddy every other Saturday is a good thing, but he hasn't actually hung out with his friends in over a year. He doesn't FB or myspace or twitter much anymore, and when talking with him during this fight he was really down about how he doesn't have any friends besides me, and he feels really apathetic about it. This scares the **** out of me. Firstly, more than anything I was him to be happy and healthy, and not having male friends his age is going to be detrimental to both. But secondly, I'm wondering if this is why he and I have been having so many issues...my number one complaint has been that he's apathetic and doesn't take a proactive approach to our relationship. It's like, if our marriage lasts, then great; if not, oh well. He doesn't actively do his part in helping the relationship last. So, when push comes to shove, is he going to let our relationship fall away too? At what point does he have a responsibility to take action and change his attitude and behavior? Does he even want to? I tried asking him why he let his friendships fade, and he didn't have an answer. I've tried asking him why he's apathetic about our relationship, and he doesn't have a reason for that. Now, maybe I've overreacting, but I'm very worried at this point. I've asked him if he thinks he needs counseling, and he's said no, though he has agreed to attend couples counseling...is this an avenue I should pursue? Should I be worried? Thanks for taking the time, C2W

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