A lot of you may remember my posts and how I need to work on my insecurities, jealousy, anxiety issues and how if I don't I will drive my husband away.
So how do I react appropriately to this and not do any kind of damage. We had a parents night at kids school. One woman there (an acquaintance) always dresses over the top (in a provocative way), I've known here for awhile, she is very nice but also wants to get noticed. Anyways, she is chatting it up with my husband when we were all talking in a group, then we were all talking and just the way she positions herself to him, like she is physically trying to close him off and just talk to him. The whole body language thing just irked me. My husband just stayed right where he was and continued to talk to her, polite as he normally can be. He normally is very shy and quiet to a fault, but since we know this woman and her husband (who wasn't there and who generally treats her badly) he was talking too. I could have sworn I saw him glance at her cleavage, I know dumb, who cares, get over it right? Everything else was fine though, we finished talking and left.
We get in the car and husband immediately says what's wrong? I literally did not think I let on I was annoyed but apparently I wear my feelings on my shoulder.
SO, I don't want to make this a 'thing' or overreact but if I say nothing is wrong, let it go, he won't buy that. He is putting one kid to bed right now (I have the other) but I know this can't be avoided. So how do I react appropriately? Say I think so-and-so was kind of flirting with you and I didn't like it but I'm over it? Or say nothing? Or say this bothered me but I'm not annoyed with you, more so her? Or I saw you catch a glance and not cool...or eh, she puts it out there. Maybe I'm the one with the problem?
I feel how I feel. Don't know if its right or wrong but I don't want problems and I don't want to be 'that' wife anymore.
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So how do I react appropriately to this and not do any kind of damage. We had a parents night at kids school. One woman there (an acquaintance) always dresses over the top (in a provocative way), I've known here for awhile, she is very nice but also wants to get noticed. Anyways, she is chatting it up with my husband when we were all talking in a group, then we were all talking and just the way she positions herself to him, like she is physically trying to close him off and just talk to him. The whole body language thing just irked me. My husband just stayed right where he was and continued to talk to her, polite as he normally can be. He normally is very shy and quiet to a fault, but since we know this woman and her husband (who wasn't there and who generally treats her badly) he was talking too. I could have sworn I saw him glance at her cleavage, I know dumb, who cares, get over it right? Everything else was fine though, we finished talking and left.
We get in the car and husband immediately says what's wrong? I literally did not think I let on I was annoyed but apparently I wear my feelings on my shoulder.
SO, I don't want to make this a 'thing' or overreact but if I say nothing is wrong, let it go, he won't buy that. He is putting one kid to bed right now (I have the other) but I know this can't be avoided. So how do I react appropriately? Say I think so-and-so was kind of flirting with you and I didn't like it but I'm over it? Or say nothing? Or say this bothered me but I'm not annoyed with you, more so her? Or I saw you catch a glance and not cool...or eh, she puts it out there. Maybe I'm the one with the problem?
I feel how I feel. Don't know if its right or wrong but I don't want problems and I don't want to be 'that' wife anymore.
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