Does your spouse get along with your mother?

I love both my husband and my mom, but they are very different people in some ways. I've tried for years to 'control' things to make husband try and open up more to my mom etc, my mom has always been good to us. In some ways she is annoying, which bothers my husband more and I tend to ignore/brush it off. We see her more than my husband's parents (he also finds his parents annoying too in some ways). He says he likes my mom and loves his parents but it's easy to be annoyed with them. I'm trying to learn not to let it bother me so much, that I can't control them, they are polite and cordial to each other and I should be happy for that. It's also annoying because my husband shuts down around my mom, he's shy in general but around her he says little, gets annoyed about stuff (and its visible to me), but he does try a little bit...for my sake. Just wondering how you handle it when you're all together. My mom respects my husband, I'm sure she wishes he was more talkative, closer to her etc and he is polite but very quiet/says little around her and I'm sure he wishes she was different in *some* ways. They both never speak badly of each other (besides my husband sometimes saying what she does is a little annoying WHEN I ask him what he thinks about something). We will all be going on vacation together soon (something we've never done) but there will be other family there too. It's just giving me a little anxiety but maybe I need to just relax and realize it's out of my hands. Sometimes I wish my husband made more effort with my mom, I've asked him for years and it's gotten better but I can't force something. Edited to add: I should say my mom tends to be very judgmental and a lot more talkative, louder etc than my husband. I think the judgmental thing turns my husband off a lot, he avoids confrontation at almost all costs. They both are good people but I wish they were closer or actually enjoyed each other's company. Sometimes I don't even like spending time with my mom alone so maybe I have unreasonable expectations.

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