Financial inequality when entering a marriage..

I'll begin this post by stating that this is not a "financial problem" but a search for advice or anyone who has dealt with this type of scenario..Its a bit of a strange place to be in. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man and we are starting to talk about our mutual plans to create a life together (marriage,kids,whole 9 yards). We communicate openly about what we are planning together but the scary issue for us is that I am rich, and he is not. I inherited a large amount of family money (and though I like to think I'm very level headed about it) it is a reality. I am not the breadwinner, or the high income spouse; I just happen to have a huge amount of cash for no good reason. I own a home outright, I have large investments, I am set. Great right? My boyfriend is gainfully employed, responsible, honest, but also 50k in debt from school and grew up on welfare. I have recently begun to break the news of my wealth to him because I know it will obviously be an issue we need to deal with as we get more serious. He is doing his best not to freak out, but its weird to find out your girlfriend is seriously loaded. Then youre talking about marriage and now suddenly, you're going to be loaded too. I often feel like if I had actually earned the money or if I was making significantly more than him income wise we would have an easier time maneuvering the situation, but I just got lucky, and I chose him because he is wonderful and I want for him to just feel lucky too and not focus on the fact that I am entering this with more than him financially. I think that having the woman enter in with big money is also hard for society, and him to digest. I feel more concerned about his feelings of financial inadequacy than mine, especially since I didn't earn my money. I want to find a way to express to him my trust and need for him to accept this gift that was given to me and now is being given to him as just that; a completely random act of financial luck. We are both trying to make that feeling happen but I can tell its still as strange for him to accept as it was for me. I guess Im just curious if theres someone out there who has gone through this and if so, is there some advice you can give me on figuring this out...?

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