Should people be shamed for their choice of marriage partners?

Almost 32 years ago when I was a kid during the 70's era, one of my uncles migrated to the USA. Eventually he enlisted in the US Army during the Vietnam war , and had a successful career, up until his retirement. During that period, he met and married a white, all American woman, they had a beautiful baby girl. She grew up, went to college , excelled, attended university got her degree ,furthered her studies and became very highly qualified in her field. She travelled and worked all over the world. She has even taught in South Korea and Japanese schools. Very culturally adept, an unrepentant feminist and describes herself as a " liberal Democrat." [ Whatever that means , I'm not sure.]She's a political activist of sorts, but her dad is an unrepentant Republican. She eventually married a white American man , but the marriage didn't last. By year three, they were divorced, she admitted to me that a huge part was her fault. She was young and her passion for her research work etc. took a toll on their relationship. The divorce was amicable, no kids involved. She's now a lecturer at a University and recently got remarried to an Italian guy. Should be be shamed for her choice of an Italian man for husband? Should her dad be shamed for his choice of an American woman for wife? Should his wife be shamed for marrying a Caribbean man , and not an American? When I decided to marry a woman outside of my race and culture, I was given lots of grief and shaming by women of my own race, except my family. Tremendous social pressure was placed on me because of my choice of an Indian woman. Negative stereotyping of her . They told me that something was wrong with me because I didn't want to marry " a real woman who could stand up to me." Lots of BS, but it didn't faze me, I knew what I wanted. Well I DUMPED ALL OF MY SO CALLED FRIENDS and married my wife. Today , after 18 years, I look around and all I can see is her. Some of those who gave me grief back then are now asking me " how come ?" Their marriages ended on the rocks, long ago. Interestingly enough, intercultural / interracial marriages is now the norm here . Everybody doing as they please. So much for the bad old days. 32 years later, my black, Republican uncle and his white Democrat wife are still happily married . My half white ,half crazy feminist , favourite cousin is enjoying her second marriage having learnt hard lessons from her first, and my wife and I are still very much in love. I won't bother to mention my sister in law who got married to an Australian scientist who was down here " on assignment " and caught the " jungle fever " 15 years ago.A few months later , they got married. Today, 15 years after ,they still are a happily married couple , residing in Australia. My point is that people marry who they are attracted to. They marry for various reasons, sexual attraction , social mobility, financial security, opportunity, whatever, we all have our personal biases, and that is our personal right. It is theirs too. Some women prefer genuine nice, quiet guys who they think wouldn't give off too much "alpha" attitude because it is a turn off,to them. Some men prefer genuine nice , quiet women who they think wouldn't give off too much "alpha" attitude because its a turn off, to them. Others like just the opposite and it works fine , because its a turn on, to them. Some people strike gold in their first marriage, some on their second attempt, and still some, only after long periods, yes even after 24 years. People marry whom they want to marry for personal reasons, and that's their right . The year is 2013, should we really be shaming them?

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