Making excuses about marrying me

Hello, I chose to post here to get opinions from men and women on the forum. I am in a 10yr relationship and we got engaged in 2008 and moved in together from 2005. we now have 1 child together that is a toddler. after the first year of engagement we started talking about a small affordable wedding and I was so excited. Fast forward from 2008 until now we are still not married. I have been so understanding and maybe to much. I know everyone will say that I need to express my feelings to him and I have so many times over the years and told him how important marriage is to me. I always have to bring up the subject. During this period we have: bought the rings visit small wedding venues choose menu draft up guest list I bought my dress know budget and costs Some how he managed to make excuses after excuses such as -after the baby is born -lets save a little more -lets do court house (which I had no issues with) -he wants us to buy a home first -he is busy with work In December of this year he told his family we are already married and that we eloped which we did not he did this when I was not with him so I had no choice but to play along he even started wearing the wedding band. I know this is crazy right?? I figured that after doing this we would run off to the court house and make it official. But nope we are still not married. My father is not speaking to me because of this saying I don't respect him and that is not how to go about things. Just today when I poured my heart out to him and said how hurt I am and if it is because he does not want to marry me he says no that's not the case and the he just been busy. I told him if thinks I deserve this and he says no. I don't know what to do here this situation has drained me and I feel depressed. I love him very much and we have a happy life together but I just feel like I am being tricked and he doesn't want to marry me. I feel like such a fool, sometimes love makes you blind I guess. At the same time I don't want to force someone to marry me ( I want him to want to marry me) and I just don't see the enthusiasm on his part. why would he lie about us being married? what should I do at this point?? what do I tell him??

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