Remorse vs. Guilt

I'm struggling with one of the Catch-22s of R and I'm hoping some of the BSs and WSs here can lend a little perspective and experience. The problem is how can a WS separate remorse, which seems to be universally recognized as good and necessary in any R, from guilt, which I've been told by my wife and MC/IC is destructive and counterproductive to R?

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