Is my Wife a *****?

I am 43 and have been with my wife for 21 years. I will keep this brief. I was very close to my Mum and Dad, i lost my Mum to MND in October 2008, I lost my dad to Prostate Cancer in December 2011. My Brother in law was Killed in a RTA in January 2012. I Lost my Job for no reason in September 2012 - i had to take them to court - all I can say is that it is resolved :) It was hard to find the type of work i was in, i had worked hard to get where I was. So After chatting to a few, i decided to set my own company up. The court stuff was sorted by February 2013, i started my company in March 2013. My wife seemed distant, from February 2013 and we did not connect. I thought I could be to blame, as I had a lot on my plate with no work, the court case and then starting my own company. I Approached her in March 2013 and asked if anything was wrong, she said no. I apologised if I was distant as I had a lot on. I asked again and she still said nothing was wrong. I noticed she started texting more, also on her IPAD a lot. Being a little curious, i looked at her phone Bill, which I pay for. Her texts had Increased from 200, to 700 to 3100 texts a month! I wondered what was going on. So i rang some numbers that she contacted regularly - Men Answered! She was just going away to see a friend on her own. I did not like doing this, but i monitored her Texts. She sent around 50 -80 texts between midnight and one in the morning. Also she must have work at 3.30 am and texted him again. When she returned I confronted her and asked if she had been contacted guys - she said no - i said what about this number, oh errh yes ok, but its just banter. Anyone else i asked, she replied no, what about this number - oh ok, but its just banter. Anyone else? No, she replied - So i called a number in front of her - what about this guy! - i asked how many, but she wouldn't give me a straight answer - kept saying it was banter. I did point out that you don't just banter at midnight and waking up to text someone at 3.30am, is not banter! Anyway -somehow i tried to move on with her, she stopped texting these guys - but i don't know if she contacts them another way. I also said she needs to be a little intimate with me - click kiss or cuddle me once and a while! 3 weeks later and no intimacy! So i asked what was wrong and did she still love me She replied i don't know if i love you and i don't know what i want. I think we need space! So I have now moved out giving her space, she seems to think i will be back in four weeks and we will carry on. The more i am away, the less i want to return. Grief has hit me hard since I Found out she might be cheating. I am also unable to concentrate on the business. At a time I needed her, she decides she wants space to sort out her life. She has never needed to work, I pay for Everything! All i can say is I am a little pissed off, and in Limbo at the moment! Forgot to mention, we have four kids - 20, 18, 10 and 7 and they mean the world to me. I see them every-other day as I try and get them from school, i also see them at the weekend, as i take them swimming and park etc.

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