Wife doesnt understand and i dont know what to do

As of the end of March this year I have been clean and sober 9 years. While that's great and im proud of it, one issue came with that I still cannot resolve. All of my old "running" friends are gone and I haven't had any success in finding new friends. The only time my wife and I have apart are date nites which are few and far between. I always end up saying something during date about how nice it would be to have at least another couple to do things with. I feel this is completely normal and my doctor even says that its not healthy. However, my wife takes it as that I should be happy with her, I try to explain, the night ends up ruined, and then im depressed for a couple days after for seemingly ruining the night. For many of those years I felt that this is the way it should be, but 9...its just overwhelms me. I do love my wife to the end and she loves me. If it came down to it, I would choose to be with her without any friends forever. I try and hide it and not say anything but shes the only one I have. I do see a counselor and what she has suggested has not worked out for me. Any ideas would be appreciated.

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