| Hi all We have been married for almost 20 yrs and have children. I always thought we had a perfect marriage....then I discover quite by chance in 2011 that my H isn't all that he seems. I found out that he cheated in 2008....and i tracked down OW and confronted her and she told me all, so i backed my lying H into a corner until he had no choice but to admit what he did. He was so sorry and disgusted and promised he'd only ever cheated this once, that it wasn't what he wanted and he has never done anything else. We attempted to R for a year, he continued to tell me that he'd cheated only the once! But i didn't believe him....so after the year I still had my doubts and decided to book a polygraph. That wasn't met with open arms....which alarmed me....but if you have something to hide I guess you wouldn't be too happy about agreeing to it. Within days of the poly he comes clean and tells me about two other indiscretions. Two more ONS. I cancelled the poly. He came clean last year, about 6 months ago.....and to be fair we have worked hard and spent all our time together, repairing the damage....we are very close and mostly very happy, he is doing everything right in many respects, complete transparency....shows he obviously loves me and wants me....he is doing everything he can to prove his love. BUT i cant shake this feeling there could me more.... the last ONS I cannot shake the feeling it was an affair...... Do I re-book the polygraph? I want my marriage to work, I want it to survive, but I need to know I have the truth no matter what that truth might be.....I can see he is a different man now....I can see we have a future, but something inside me wont let this drop......I want to stay married and remain a family but I need the full truth and don't believe i have it. He insists I have the full truth, that he has told me everything before the previously booked poly. I fear this will eat me up and we wont survive. I need some good sound advice please. | |||
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