How do you be intimate again after infidelity???

I found out that my husband cheated and we are working on making it last but I am having issues with wanting to be intimate. In years past, we were very open and loving but with this last time (there were other times that I had to get thru as well) I am not able to open my heart freely. I dont know if I dont want to get hurt or what. Maybe it's visions of him and someone else. I want him and I want him to want me but this feeling I cant shake. I try to talk with him but he shuts down. He has never been an open, "touchy feely" type of guy. Not sure how to get him to open up and I dont know how to get past him being with another woman. It's just a turn off to think of that when you want to be together. Any help or advise is appreciated. I am at the end of my rope here. I miss sex with my husband AND I dont want it tanted with visions and images of another woman. :confused:

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