A good start?

Hi, I really need some advice here. I've been looking for answers to my problem , asking everyone I know for input.my issue is a bit complicated so bear with me So here I am and I've met the most amazing guy. He is 32, he is supportive, attracted to me, excited about what we've started and definitely pushing things way too fast . We talked trough email and phone for a month before I met I'm and he is absolutely great . If I had a checklist I'd probably check most things off. I mean sure , he looks like a scrub hehe he's been a bachelor for a while, and he's a complete nerd . He's supportive cuddly affectionate, but he's also stubborn and definitely an introvert. We have so many things in common but we are sooo different too We've had sex and physically were completely compatible we've both got a freaky hidden side that is absolutely perfect. My issue is this- when I'm with this guy, I feel completely blank. Wile we're having sex he will look in my eyes and I feel so guilty because although I'm completely satisfied I feel no connection with him whatsoever. When were sitting next to each other I feel safe, loved wanted and I can't keep thinking that really this could work. But again I don't have that spark, fireworks, feeling of excitement when I'm sitting next to him at all. I keep wondering that even though I'm ready to have a relationship again, I might be settling here? Is it ok to skip the falling in love stage? And jump in. I've been thinking lately that maybe I did just that, skipped the falling in love part and went to straight loving him. I mean sure we've only been dating for a little while but I d get that urge to kiss him to cuddle to be affectionate, to call him when im down or when im feeling anxious.I do look at him all the time and appreciate the way he looks at me and what he has to offer. But I also want him to change his lifestyle to match mine ( I know we can't change people but I'm willing to accept and adopt ways of living too) But I will literally look in his eyes while we're having sex ( maybe he's making love to me I'm not sure ) and I feel soooooo guilty when he says to me - I can't believe u feel about me the same w ay I feel about you because I know it's a lie. With my previous relationship( a relationship that has ended over a year ago and I've gotten complete closure from and moved on) I felt a spark , a connection so intense that I felt I could and I would do absolutely anything. Anything for him. I felt in love. It was the type of love that consumed me, that made me sooo happy that I felt like I was in heaven . That relationship made me feel like I could do anything, I felt proud of being with that other person and I can't keep wondering if I'm the type of person that can only completely love one person in a lifetime Is it ok to not feel a spark at the beginning of the relationship. Should I keep trying? Will it come with time? I'm scared that if I take the relationship further I will hurt his feelings and it will go too far before I can stop it. Should I keep looking? I have met guys that I've felt a spark with but circumstances didn't allow me to pursue a relationship I would take any sort of advice. Please help

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