| I'm 33 and I've been dating my 27 y/o Chinese girlfriend for almost 7 months now. In the beginning, she lived about 1.5 hours away and worked as a waitress in a restaurant, and I'd go see her every weekend. After about 5 months, she moved in with me. Since she's an immigrant from China without her green card yet, she doesn't have a lot of job opportunities, so she's pretty much limited to chinese restaurants, nail salons, or spas. Anyway, she was unable to find a job here because I live in a small town, so she just stayed at my house all day every day. This was fine because every day when I came home from work she would have food cooked for me. (She didn't clean up very well though... I'm kind of a neat freak). Well, after about 2 or 3 weeks of her living with me I really began to feel kind of suffocated because she was always there all of the time. I think I was just used to living alone for so long. I never said anything to her about this, but she admitted to me that she was tired of staying home and wanted to move to a bigger city to work again. And we could just see each other on the weekends or every other weekend. She ended up moving to a big city about 4 hours away, but we agreed that she would work there for 3 or 4 months and then she would come back on our 1-year anniversary and that's when we would get married. Well, I found that I was extremely happy when she moved out because I was able to get my old life back. I got my house cleaned up the way I wanted it, it's nice and quiet when I get home, and I still have her to talk to and see every now and then. That brings us to tonight. She's been out now for about 3 weeks. I told her tonight that I really wasn't sure if I wanted to get married on our 1-year anniversary, but I didn't want to lose her. This obviously made her very upset and she told me that if I didn't have a plan for us then she would break up with me. I can truly see her point, but I just hate myself for not feeling the way I need to feel about this. She's very beautiful and she really tried to take care of me when she lived here. But when I really sit down and think about it... we don't really have much in common other than each other. I guess I really know the answer to my situation already but I don't want to admit it. I'm hoping someone out there can talk some sense in to me and not let me let this girl go. I feel like I won't find another one like her. | |||
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