Situation has improved... now comes the testing time (and I fail)

If you know my story, then hi :) If not, in short: wife was always criticizing, complaining, I was miserable, read the book no more mr. nice guy and through much support from nice people here really worked on myself. Things has gotten better, so much so that I stopped visiting here - I was happy. But now, as we are in a very stressful time - details are not important - she is all back to her old self. In the past, when everything was fine, we enjoyed some good time together and many things got really better. But as soon as she is under stress, or fearful (which she is often), she is back to accusing, nagging, and driving me crazy. I realized that what she need is to * be able to communicate her feelings, rather then letting them out in the negative way she does * seek outside help - if she needs a babysitter, or any other kind of help. I always offer to find one, or to pay for one, but she simply don't know how to take care of herself. She believe she destined to suffer * Appreciate what I do for her (right now I get zero of that). But what can I do about it? * Nothing * Just make sure I won't get hurt in the process. So yes, I know that. It's still hard. I have got into a so much better situation, yet we are moving back to the beginning point. She is being upset about something - some of which she is right to be upset about- she was taking to me in such a disgusting manner that I told her I am not going to reply as long as she is not willing to talk normal. She ended up yelling, waking up kids from her screaming (it's 12AM!).

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