Need help preparing for marriage counseling.

Details first; wife had an affair, wants to mend the marriage, the only reason I have gotten so far is "because he was there". I have read a lot of posts regarding the discussion of why the affair happened, I cant prevent "because he was there" in the future. So, were scheduled to sit with a counselor. How should I posture my side of the discussion to figure out why she had the affair, or find a reason why she has no respect for our marriage? Im focusing on counseling at this point, not the back story...moving forward. Posted via Mobile Device

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