Is it time to finish this?

My fiance and I have been going through hard times for about 2 months now. Obviously I have posted on this before. She has a list of things she feels I need to "man up" on. I agree and have been working hard to resolve some of my issues. However, I have explained to her very firmly, several times now that SHE has a LOT to work on too like a TOTAL lack of communication, no intimacy, *****y attitude towards the family in general, etc. I feel I have put lots of hours into research, typing, talking to her, etc. All things she has NOT done.

2 months now. We got a sitter last night, took her out for a quick dinner and drinks, then went to the grocery store together. Maybe I am expecting too much but my GD blood is just boiling today. Just some small kisses this morning from her. No sex, no hugs, no intimacy, no nothing. When I hug her, there is not much coming back. I am SICK of feeling neglected and clearly explained to her that HER lack of anything in this relationship is what harbors MY resentment and thus I have ZERO drive to do **** for her. I am seriously wondering now if she just needs a man that will do everything for her and expect nothing back. I am just not that guy.

Just asking from perspectives of married partners out there at what point in the "reconciliation" phase should a guy finally get some slack? I am getting close to just ending this joke of a one sided reconciliation.